Face rubbing is one of those things that all cats do to their owners.
So, it makes sense to wonder if they’d like for us to do it to them.
Face rubbing is a fairly common thing for cats to do to us owners. It’s right up there along with the closely related head butt.
Why do cats rub their face on you? They do this to display affection and ownership.
However, just because they can do it to us, doesn’t necessarily make it a two-way street.
Why Face Rubbing is a Thing
Let’s be clear – no one really knows why cats do anything.
Scientists and animal behaviorists make educated guesses, but as we’ve said before, cats are horrible research subjects.
As far as face rubbing goes, science has a few potential answers, depending on what they’re rubbing up against.
In general, experts say it’s all about marking. Cats have glands throughout their sweet little faces that leave behind their scent.
So, when they rub up against something – say their favorite naptime chair- they’re basically saying, “I was here. This is mine. Don’t steal it.”
Since we’re talking about why they rub against you here, though, the most likely answers are as I said above: it’s both a sign of affection and ownership.
But face rubbing has many meanings, so we’re going to discuss all these reasons why your cat rubs face on you in a moment.
Why Do Cats Rub Their Face on Things and People?
So, you’ve probably noticed that your cat loves to rub its face on various objects around the house.
But have you ever thought about the reason behind this cute gesture? Here are 7 surprising explanations why do cats rub their face on you.
#1 Marking Territory
As I already explained, cats have glands in their cheeks and chins, which release pheromones whenever your cat rubs against something.
Using these scent glands, cats communicate with other felines and warn other felines to stay away from their territory.
Moreover, cats can determine when another cat has been around, thanks to these pheromones. In this way, your feline friend can avoid conflict with other cats.
Humans can’t smell these subtle scent marks, but the chemicals are so pungent that cats don’t have problems recognizing each other by scent alone.
#2 Reestablishing Ownership
Let me tell you a secret. Cats don’t like to share things or people with other pets.
And they have got such an excellent sense of smell, it’s a piece of cake to pick up any scent marks or chemicals left by strange cats on you.
If your kitty doesn’t swat you with its paws to punish you, you can expect a cat face rub to remove the smell of unfamiliar cats and establish its ownership.
The same thing will happen if you decide to introduce another cat. Your kitty will rub faces on objects to reestablish its claim and say, “This is mine!”
And when you have guests, your cat will seek to re-mark its territory and favorite objects as soon as the visitors are out of the house.
Interestingly, cats often choose to rub against the coffee table’s edges, corners, box edges, or anything else that sticks out.
#3 Looking for a Mate
Do you know that male cats are more likely to rub their faces and bodies against objects than female cats?
Likely, this behavior has to do with your cat’s sexual impulses.
The more objects the cat rubs faces on, the more likely they will attract females during the mating season.
In this case, intact cats say, “I’m interested! Come and find me!”
Moreover, rubbing faces on things and people also sends a message to other potential tomcats in the vicinity, warning them to stay away.
#4 Picking up Scents
Cats not only leave their unique scent mark behind when they rub against objects and people.
They also pick up tons of information, such as who has been around and when. That’s how your cat knows when you’ve been eating something tasty without sharing.
Moreover, cats often rub their faces on people and things to merge their scent with the scent of their favorite person/object, especially in a multi-cat household.
If you pay close attention to your cat’s body language, you’ll notice that cats who get along often use rubbing and bunting as a form of greeting.
In this way, cats create a unique scent, making it easy for cats to distinguish friend from foe. Rubbing also helps with the bonding.
#5 Seeking Comfort
Have you ever noticed that your cats head bunt more often when they are nervous?
In times of stress, some cats and kittens will do several face rubs to spread their scent on objects or people in an attempt to create a familiar environment.
So, when my kitten rubs its face against mine, I know the little one is seeking a little bit of extra comfort and reassurance.
#6 Seeking Attention
Why is a stray cat rubbing against me?
If you feel like a cat magnet no matter where you go, the explanation is simple. Cats are trying to attract your attention and get something tasty in return.
Moreover, I’ve noticed that my cats will often rub their faces on the furniture whenever they’re trying to make me get up and open the wet food can.
#7 Cats rub on you to say “I love you”
Why does my cat rub his face on my face?
When a cat rubs his face against your body, he is showing that he loves you by increasing his contact with you.
That’s why it’s often accompanied by blissful purring.
He is also showing ownership (as in, his ownership of you) by transferring his scent onto you.
It’s a calling card of sorts. It’s his way of saying, “Hey all you other cats, this human belongs to me!”
Which is also a sort of affection, if you think about it.
Do Cats Like to be on the Receiving End of Face Rubbing
The short – and unsatisfying – answer to this question is some do. Some don’t. It all depends on the cat.
A particularly friendly cuddle bug of a cat is most likely going to ADORE you putting your face all over him.
We have one cat that is all about the cuddles. He loves to be held like a baby and snuggled in close against my cheeks.
On the other hand, a more reserved cat is probably not going to be so keen on the prospect of your face all up in his personal space.
Our other cat is the complete opposite of my cuddler. She decides when we’re going to snuggle, and she absolutely hates being held.
We made the mistake of rubbing face against hers once out of the blue and she swatted!
Why Do Cats Like Their Cheek Rubbed?
Most cats will melt the moment you rub their cheeks because it feels good. And they might be itchy in this spot, so it’s a very pleasant experience when you scratch this itch.
And when you rub your cat’s cheek, you get your cat’s scent all over your hand. So, your cat is pleased to have the opportunity to mark you.
My cat purrs when I rub my face on hers
One of the greatest mistakes we humans have ever made in our efforts to understand cats is assuming that purring equals happiness.
Hey, we don’t exactly have a cat Rosetta stone, so we’re bound to make mistakes and misjudge their sounds.
While bliss is among the reasons cat purrs, it’s far from the only one. The other most common reasons include:
- To stimulate healing, especially of bones and tendons.
- As a natural pain reliever.
- To self-soothe in stressful situations.
New mama cats also use purring to guide their kittens, who are born unable to see or hear.
Interestingly, PetMD points out that when cats are purring out of happiness, it’s more to train the US to keep doing what we’re doing.
For example, if your cat purrs when you pet her, you associate that with joy, so you keep doing it. If she didn’t purr, you may think she’s not having fun and stop.
Isn’t that intriguing? All this time we thought we were in charge and leading our cats towards behaviors that we want, but really they’ve been training us!
Rubbing Vs. Headbutting
First, according to cat behaviorist Pam Johnson-Bennett, author of CatWise, what we call “head butting” is actually “bunting.”
Bunting, like rubbing, is all about using those scent glands to send a message.
However, while rubbing can mean “I own this” equally as often as “I like this,” Pam says that bunting is almost always a sign of affection.
The bunting and rubbing are reserved for bonding, social, comforting and friendly purposes. When your cat engages in head bunting or head rubbing, he is placing his scent there as a social and affectionate gesture.
However, Pam doesn’t go into detail about whether kitties like to be on the receiving end. Again, it really depends on YOUR cat’s personality.
It’s all about Your cat’s personality
Bottom line: your cuddle bug may love face rubbing from you, but if you have a cat that wants affection when he wants it and ONLY when he wants it, it’s inadvisable to put your face directly within striking distance.
Remember, your surly cat can love you and still tell you to back off with his claws. It’s all about personal preference. For example, the general consensus is that cats hate belly rubs.
However, both of the cats in my home present their bellies before I even make it over to them. They like belly rubs more than the dogs do!
Most cat owners who read this will assume that I’m making it up, but I assure you, it’s true. This type of individual preference holds true with face rubbing as well.
So if your cat is a regular feline Casanova for you, feel free to try face rubbing right back.
However if your cat is more of a “serve me, human” type of cat, we would NOT recommend it. And remember, NEVER push anything on your cat if he doesn’t want it.
You could end up scratched or bitten, or at the very least, your cat may give you the cold shoulder for a while.
Conclusion
Sometimes it’s hard to resist face rubbing your cute kitty while they’re asleep or showing your pet how much your love them by scratching their chins. However, not all cats are fans of face rubs.
So, even if your cat loves nothing more than to rub against your legs, you shouldn’t try to return the gesture or you risk getting the cold shoulder.
We’d love to hear from you! Does your cat love when you rub your face on him? Share in the comments!
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My cat is 3 yrs old and his name is Kitty. He is an inside,outside cat. When he wants out he normally shakes the bells I have on the door but he knows I will move faster if he scratches on my furniture. The bells are fine but NO to my furniture. My living room is looking really bad with all the covers on the couch and chair.
HELP ME AND MY FURNITURE. HE IS A REALLY SWEET LOVIE CAT.
The advice- get something even more enticing for him to scratch. My cat Zoe was scratching up everything. Sofas, chairs, even the door frames. It started after we got rid of a cat tree that was taking up a ton of space. SO, we went out and bought her a $5 scratcher thing made of corrugated cardboard. It looks kind of like a bed, but it’s all cardboard. Best purchase ever. She prefers it to my furniture. If he scratches your sofa, pick him up and put him next to the scratching post before letting him out. That way, he’ll associate the post with the results he wants rather than your poor sofa.
I rub my forehead on my two Ragdoll’s forehead all the time. They accept it as part of the routine affection I show them daily. They knead on my belly too! We have a close bond.
I have a 12 yr old Nebelung cat named Avalon who is usually shy and reserved. However she loves to lay beside me in bed and rub/head butt my face every morning when I wake up. She also loves me to rub my face against her face and body. Not only that, she enjoys pressing her face hard into my open palm soliciting what I call a face smoosh massage. This has become our morning ritual since my recent retirement (now that I have more time to spend bonding with my fur baby)!
I have no doubt that my cat loves me. She constantly seeks me out and wants to sit on my lap. She is a Tonkinese (Siamese / Burmese cross) and these cats are well known for their affectionate and playful tendencies. But I have had two “Tonks” and they were pretty much chalk and cheese in this regard. My past one loved to give me head butts and face rubs and to get them in return. She was unremittingly demonstrative and affectionate. My present one – not so much. In fact she often put her paw up to block me (a bit like a traffic cop on the road side signaling stop) as I bring my face towards her. She is in short, a little reserved and very demure about when affection towards her is acceptable – even though she is usually happy to show me affection. As you say, it all depends on the cat. She always has been reserved – even as a kitten when I met her for the very first time in the breeding cattery she was more timid and hung back much more than her brothers and sisters. I never the less selected her as the cat I wanted to adopt because I felt that she would respond to the love I knew I would give her.
My kitty fat daddy is a ragamuffin …he is about 10 months old…he was always rubbing his face on me so one day I thought ….I wonder if he would like me to rub my face on him and he loves it!!! He gets really relaxed and closes his eyes….he also loves to be held like a baby and loves being in my lap….he is the most affectionate cat I have ever owned but he loves rough play just as much …. He leaves scratches on me all the time! It’s getting better though.
I always thought they rubbed their faces on everything to mark their area too. I only had one cat that really liked for a human to rub its face. He also chased our dog! LOL
My cat loves it but on her terms. If you try to do face rubs on her she’ll bite. But if you hold out a brush she’ll do it herself.
This was a really interesting read. It figures that cats would give face rubs to mark you as their own. That’s such a cat thing to do.
wow, this was really interesting! I always rub my cats cheek and he enjoys it, but I never thought about why he did.
I don’t care for the cat face rubs. This does help me understand the whys of it.
This is really interesting to know. My cats love face rubs. They do that all the time.
This is really interesting to know, most cats I’ve encountered love face rubs.
My cat seems to enjoy scratches under her chin and on her head. She is about 4 months old and I hope she stays very affectionate.
It’s a question that I’ve never asked myself. But it was interesting to find out the answer!
Our cat is very affectionate, but I always let her decide when she wants to snuggle or be held.
I think it really depends on the cat, the cat we had growing up loved to. But my friends cat did not.