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It’s an interesting question, especially since we associate cats with aloofness.

Long story short, yes, they do. Even though they often seem like they could take us or leave us, our cats really do rely on us for comfort.

They feel our absence when we are gone and will let us know they are not happy. Cats absolutely bring joy and happiness to our homes so their happiness should be important to us.

They are social creatures and show affection differently than dogs or humans. It is important for us to recognize signs of loneliness in our cats.

Signs That Your Cat Is Lonely

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#1 Excessive grooming

We know that cats like to keep themselves well groomed.

If you start to notice that your cat is excessively grooming herself she may be trying to tell you something!

If your cat is developing some OCD with grooming she is probably trying to tell you she is lonely.

Keep an eye out for changes in your cat’s grooming routine.

#2 Excessive chatter

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Your cat probably has her own way of talking to you. You think her chatter is adorable!

But if you start to hear her more often or more loudly, take note.

Your cat might be increasing her volume or chatting to get your attention.

#3 Litter Box Issues

One of the biggest indicators that something is wrong with your cat is litter box issues.

If you notice that your cat is suddenly going outside the litter box, call your vet first to rule out health issues, then think about your schedule.

It is possible that your cat is feeling lonely and taking out her frustration with you by not using her litter box.

#4 Aggression

“What are the most aggressive cat breeds?” While every kitty has his own unique personality, these are the 7 that tend to be the “meanest.”

Have you ever gone to kiss your kitty goodbye only to have her swipe at you?

These forms of aggression could be a sign that she doesn’t want you to leave her.

Your cat is simply using the tools available to her to let you know she’s lonely.

#5 Destructive behavior

If your cat is lonely being left by herself for long periods of time, she may get destructive. This is her way of letting out frustrations.

Sadly your couch, drapes or toilet paper will pay the price. Your cat will scratch and claw these items as a way of releasing pent up frustration and anxiety.

#6 Loss of appetite

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If your cat is lonely, she may lose her appetite. Or she may eat too much and become obese.

Lethargy could also become a problem for a lonely cat.

Cats crave mental and physical stimulation.

#7 Becoming clingy

A good sign that your cat is lonely is if your cat becomes clingy.

We enjoy cuddling our cats but if you notice that she is constantly in your space and not able to separate from you, that could be a sign of loneliness.

To Summarize

We can recognize that there are several signs of loneliness in cats. The problem is that we tend to think of cats as being completely independent. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

Cats, especially if they were raised with a litter of kittens, are used to being with others.

To find themselves as the only cat in the household can be an adjustment for them. And if you are gone for work every day or for other extended time, it can be anxiety provoking for them.

You need to look out for the signs of loneliness in your cat – excessive grooming, excessive chatter, litter box issues, aggression, destructive behavior, changes in appetite and clinginess.

If you notice any of these signs you need to recognize that your cat is trying to tell you she is lonely.

What can you do to help your lonely cat?

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The first thing you can for your cat is to look at her environment.

Cats need mental stimulation as well as physical stimulation.

#1 Get them a fun new cat tree

A cat tree is a great addition to your cat’s environment. You can place it in a window and she will spend happy hours climbing and bird watching.

A cat tree can provide both mental and physical stimulation for your cat.

#2 Give them a bag

Another great option for your cat is a paper bag. Cats love to explore and look in places. A paper bag will provide her with lots of entertainment.

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#3 Bring on the toys!

Cats like cat toys! There are many safe options available to buy.

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Get your cat several different types and leave them in different rooms of the house.

#4 Get them a pal!

You might want to consider getting another cat!

This way they would be playmates and roommates.

Final Word

So do cats get lonely? They absolutely do. Take the time to listen to your cat and you will both have many happy years together.

Do your cats get lonely? Share your experiences and tips for helping them feel loved below!


Do cats get lonely? Given how independent they seem, the answer may surprise you! Learn the signs that your cat is craving company & how to help them.
Nicole Etolen
Nicole Etolen

Nicole is one of the writers here on CatVills. She’s been a cat lover most of her life and-at one point- counted five felines as part of her family. Today, she’s proud cat mom to two indoor kitties and caregiver for a slew of ferals.