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Have you noticed that your cat sleeps with you and not your husband or wife?

While it’s nice to cuddle with your cat at night, you might be wondering what makes you so unique in your cat’s eyes.

If that’s so, keep on reading to discover 5 reasons why your cat prefers to sleep with you.

5 Reasons Why Your Cat Sleeps With You And Not Your Husband

Wondering why your cat sleeps with you and not your husband or wife? Like all cat behaviors, there actually are reasons! Read on to learn what they are.

Sharing a cat with another person isn’t that easy as you might think.

Cats almost always have a favorite person to hang out with and might completely ignore you or your significant other.

While that’s typical feline behavior, it’s never easy when a cat gives you the cold shoulder.

It can strain relationships if you and your spouse are cat people.

So, let’s try to figure out why do cats lie on you, and if you can change your cat’s sleeping habits.

#1 You Don’t Toss in Bed

One of the biggest worries all cat owners have about sharing a bed with their cat is that they might squash their beloved cat while sleeping.

After all, cats are small, and it’s so easy to roll over them during the night.

Fortunately, cats seem to have a sixth sense of this and tend to get out of harm’s way.

Most felines prefer to sleep close to you but not close enough to get flattened by your tossing body.

However, constant turning and tossing disturb your cat’s beauty sleep. Not to mention that a rolling person might accidentally kick the cat.

Imagine how annoyed you’d be if someone keeps hitting you while you were trying to sleep.

So, if your cat prefers to sleep with you than your spouse, it might be because you’re a quiet sleeper and don’t turn in bed as much as your partner.

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#2 You’re Warmer

Wondering why your cat sleeps with you and not your husband or wife? Like all cat behaviors, there actually are reasons! Read on to learn what they are.

Cats seem to have another definition of the word “comfortable” when it comes to sleeping places. They might ignore the cozy cat bed for a sunny spot on the floor or a dusty wardrobe.

This strange behavior has a simple explanation. Your cat has a higher temperature than humans and seeks an external heat source to help them maintain it.

That’s why cats don’t venture far from cozy blankets or radiators during the winter months and why they love to sunbathe.

If your cat prefers to sleep with you, it might be because you’ve picked the warm side.

Being near windows/doors can parts of the bed too cold and uncomfortable for a cat.

This theory can be tested quite easily. Change spots with your partner and see where the cat goes.

#3 You Make Me Feel Secure

I’ve seen cat lays on feet or ones that lie on top of you and refuse to move.

Owners often think this behavior cute without realizing its importance.

Sleeping next to a human has a lot to do about trust. After all, cats are very vulnerable while deeply asleep because they can’t react to threat quickly.

No cat will come willingly to people they don’t trust or like.

If the cat shares a bed with you, you might make them feel secure and safe.

Your kitty knows that you won’t allow anything bad to happen to them and that you’ll watch their backs while they have a deserved nap.

However, your cat might not be so comfortable around your partner if they’re shy or reserved. So, they prefer to snuggle next to you.

#4 Your Side Is Protected

cat sleeping on top of a sofa

While indoor cats don’t have much to fear inside the house, it’s still an instinct for them to seek a safe place where nothing can sneak upon them.

That’s why a lot of cats prefer to sleep on the bed close to the wall because they know they nothing nasty will surprise them.

Others prefer to nap somewhere high, where no human can reach them for the same reason.

So, your cat sleeping with you instead of your partner might be just a strategic move because your side is closest to the wall.

Your cat also might be afraid of falling off the bed if they sleep next to your partner.

Cats might be graceful, but I’ve seen them fall plenty of times when they forget to mind the edge.

Moreover, being close to the wall means that your cat has more space to move freely during the night.

#5 You’re My Favorite

We’d like to think that cats don’t have favorites, but we know better. As people say it, cats choose their humans, not the other way around.

Does my cat love me back?” Yes, yes she does.

Usually, cats bond closely with the person that takes care of them. That’s logical because that’s the one providing food, and cats are practical creatures above all.

Besides that, cats like it when you’re around to provide entertainment, even if they don’t show it.

Despite their reputation of being loners, cats are social animals and are miserable when left alone for too long.

That’s why they might bond to the person that spends the most time around the house, trying to please them.

Sleeping next to you instead of cuddling with your partners might be your cat’s way of saying that they appreciate your care.

Take it as a compliment that your cat loves and has singled you out as their most favorite person in the world.

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Can I Change My Cat’s Sleeping Behavior?

Wondering why your cat sleeps with you and not your husband or wife? Like all cat behaviors, there actually are reasons! Read on to learn what they are.

I understand how left out a person might feel if the cat is constantly snuggling with someone else.

You might want to remedy this situation so that both of you get equal time with the cat.

First, you have to understand something. You can’t make a cat do anything they don’t want to unless you want to get scratched.

Your kitty might also get so mad at you that they never step paw in the bed again.

What you can do is encourage your partner to spend more time with the cat.

Feeding your kitty delicious treats, playing with them as much as possible, and giving plenty of petting and cuddles might change your cat’s opinion.

Your goal would be to make your cat associate your partner with good things so that your kitties get comfortable with your husband/wife’s presence. 

But you can do all the right things and still be the second-best person in the world. You won’t understand because it’s a cat thing.

As you can see, it’s common for cats to have preferences when it comes to sleeping spots.

The best you can do is bond with your cat as much as possible and hope that they come to you when it’s time for bed.

But if you think that sharing a bed with the cat might strain your relationship with your partner, you shouldn’t let the cat sleep in the bedroom from the beginning.


What do you think about these 5 reasons why your cat sleeps with you and not your husband? Why do you think your cat prefers to sleep with you? Tell us in the comments.

Olfa T
Olfa T

Olfa knows how to get things done and has a keen business sense that others admire. She’s always on the go, coming up with new ideas! Her ability to anticipate the needs of her readers and deliver information that they want is what makes CatVills such a success. She loves cuddling her cat Picaciu. He is her inspiration.