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This question has haunted many cat owners over the years. How to get your cat to cuddle with you at night?

See, cats are very solitary animals. They like doing their own thing. And it doesn’t help that cats like to move around and get up at night.

But with enough patience and discipline, you can convince them to join you for a good night’s sleep!

And if you read on, you’ll find our step-by-step guide to ensure you and your cat cuddle throughout the night!

How to Get Your Cat to Cuddle with You at Night

How to Get Your Cat to Cuddle with You at Night: 10 Easy Steps

Let’s check out ten steps you can take to make your cat cuddle with you at night.

Step 1: Keep Them Active During the Day

If you keep them occupied during the day, your cat will be less prone to getting up at night. In other words, a tired cat is a sleepy cat.

Not really groundbreaking information, but useful in your quest to get your cat cuddling at night.

With this in mind, there are many things that you can do to keep your cat active.

  • For example, try playing with them. I found that my cat loves playing with string, so I wiggle the string around the floor and watch him go nuts.
  • But if you do opt for using string, don’t leave it out because your cat could end up choking on it. And nobody wants something awful like that to happen.
  • If you don’t feel comfortable using string, another option could be a puzzle toy that will keep them entertained during the day.

You could also get them a cat leash and walk them around the block. We know this idea sounds a little weird, but your cat might enjoy it.

We have never tried it, but we have friends who say their cats love it.

Step 2: Play Session Right Before Bedtime

cat chasing laser

A ten-minute play session right before bedtime will get rid of any excess your cat might have built up during the day.

Also, if you keep the time consistent, your cat will eventually associate this play session with bedtime.

In a sense, you’re tricking your cat into adapting their sleep schedule to yours.

We find that about 30 minutes before bed is an appropriate window for this play session.

Step 3: After the Play Session, Feed Them

Just like humans, cats are prone to sleeping after big meals. So, use this to your advantage and offer them food right after your nightly play session.

In doing so, you’re increasing the odds that your cat will sleep through the night.

Although this might be tough for cat owners who leave food out all day, you can still entice them to eat by adding new food to their feeding bowl.

For us, adding in fresh food works exceptionally well, and he sleeps all through the night without any issues.

Step 4: Put an Elevated Sleeping Spot Near Your Bed

cat sleeping on a single seater

Now, this step is about getting them comfortable sleeping in your room. You want your cat to gradually become more accepting of sleeping in your room.

Forcing them isn’t going to work; in fact, it will probably make things worse.

  • Try putting a perch near your bed. It will offer your cat a nice elevated spot to sleep that we all know cats love.
  • Before my cat started sleeping in my bed, we bought him a perch and stuck it to the wall in my room. He loved it.
  • If you’re having a hard time getting your cat to use the perch, try using some treats as an incentive.

Step 5: Let Your Cat Familiarize Themselves with the Bed

Once your cat’s comfortable sleeping in your room, try enticing them into the bed with treats.

In doing so, you are making them associate the bed with treats, which makes the bed seem like a positive thing.

  • In a sense, it’s all about making your cat understand that the bed is a safe place where they get plenty of positive reinforcement and praise.
  • So, when your cat spends time on the bed, make sure you praise them and give them treats.
  • For our cat, cat treats work exceptionally well. He absolutely loves it and will do anything to get some. In fact, these treats really sped up the training process and got him to start cuddling quickly.

However, it’s essential that you don’t force them to stay on the bed. If your cat jumps off the bed, don’t pick them up and place them on the bed.

It will only make them associate the bed with being a place of annoyance.

Instead, let them walk away and try again with treats later. Eventually, they’ll understand what you’d like them to do.

Step 6: Try Replacing the Bedding

cat sleeping on a bed with new sheet

If your cat stays reluctant, try putting on different sheets.

Some cats are more likely to sleep on freshly cleaned sheets due to being picky about their cleanliness. Honestly, cats are very finicky animals.

  • Essentially, you must create an atmosphere that your cat will gravitate toward for their sleeping sessions.
  • In our case, freshly cleaned sheets didn’t work because my particular cat likes wrapping himself up in things that contain my scent.

So, we put on an old sweatshirt, and next thing you know, he was sleeping right next to me.

In your case, it might be something completely different. With this in mind, try to notice what items your cat likes sleeping on and what’s similar about them.

Step 7: Once They Come into the Bed, Praise Them

Once you finally get them to sleep on the bed, you must reinforce this as good behavior.

For example, a scratch under the chin or a couple of treats will make them start associating sleeping in bed with being a good person.

In our experience, one or two cat treats should do the trick. However, making sure to wean them off the treats after sleeping in bed becomes a natural behavior.

After all, you don’t want their diet to become unhealthy.

Step 8: Consistency

kitten sleeping

As with any animal training, you must remain consistent with the process.

For instance, don’t all of a sudden stop doing the nightly play session because your cat has become accustomed to sleeping on the bed.

By doing so, you’re undermining the routine that has made them sleep in your bed in the first place.

By skipping a step, you deny them the routine they’ve gotten used to having in their life.

Step 9: Don’t Reward Bad Behaviors

Having a cat sleep in the same bed with you isn’t always easy.

There will be times where they wake you up by meowing or just continually moving. If this happens, it’s pivotal that you ignore them.

Therefore, don’t feed them, play with them, or react to them in any way. Instead, go back to sleep and get up when you want.

Then, when you finally do get up, continue to ignore them for at least 15 minutes.

In doing so, you’re teaching them that these bad behaviors don’t garner your attention.

As a result, they’ll stop doing them. And make sure you don’t yell at them either; this will only make them continue to do the behavior.

Step 10: Enjoy Your New Regular Scheduled Cuddle Time

cuddling with cat on a bed

After you weed out the bad behaviors, all you need to do is keep the routine and enjoy your new cuddle time with your cat.

Just remember, consistency is critical. If you stick to your routine, your cat should turn into a cuddle cat in no time.


Building a nighttime cuddling routine with your cat is not only heartwarming but also an enriching experience for both of you.

By incorporating patience, understanding your cat’s preferences, and creating a cozy and inviting environment, you can forge a stronger bond that makes each night’s cuddle session a cherished moment of feline affection.

Whether your cat is already a cuddler or needs a little encouragement, the effort you invest in this nighttime ritual is sure to reward you with countless cozy, purr-filled nights together.

Do you have any other tips on how to get your cat to cuddle at night? Share below!

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Ben Roberts
Ben Roberts

Ben is an animal lover, blogger, and all around geek. He divides his love equally between his family, his animals, and his video games. In his spare time he is attempting to get a blog off the ground. Boy, are they heavy!